Want better orgasms? Learn to Meditate

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This is the post where your two favorite things combine, #sexeducation and #meditation. Female enjoyment is highly dependent on the mind. Meditation can help relax and de-stress so that you can discover a new level of self-love. In this female sex article, we discover how to meditation practice to deepen your understanding of your sexuality and pleasure #sexualitypleasure #femalesexuality #sexeducationtips #femalesexlife #femalesexarticles #meditationbenefits #mindfulnessmeditation #selflove

We all want to have better orgasms. However, how do we learn to get them if we don’t talk about them? For most women, masturbation and orgasms have long been fascinating, but taboo, topics of conversation. At some stage in our lives, nearly all women find orgasms challenging to achieve. The most extensive study on women’s pleasure in the U.S., which surveyed 1,055 women between the ages 18 and 94, found that only 18.4% of women reach orgasm through intercourse and 9 % of women reported never having an orgasm (Herbenick et. al., 2018).

Struggling to reach orgasm can make you feel like there is something wrong with you. I felt like I was broken for many years throughout my late adolescents and early-mid twenties because of this struggle. Additionally, the entertaining industry portraying women as sex objects does not help this notion either – representing women as perfect, sex objects eager to be pleased. When growing up if we don’t feel you fit the mold of what we are shown women should be then what are we supposed to think? The truth is we’re complicated creatures. You need to be patient, calm down and learn about your body.

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For women achieving that elusive big ‘O’ is heavily dependent on our minds. A study by Kontula & Miettinen (2016) found that the amount of masturbation and practice with different sexual partners didn’t increase the number of orgasms women had. Frequent orgasms were dependent on mental and relationship factors. If you are distracted, stressed, struggle with low body-image or self-esteem, have a negative view of sex, aren’t open about your sexual desires with your partner, don’t value the importance of an orgasm or are trying to force yourself to reach orgasm, you’re going to have a hard time getting there.

Benefits of Regular Orgasms

  • Stimulates release of oxytocin and dopamine which help to curb your appetite, reduce depression and stress (Dr. Natasha Turner ND, 2018).
  • Increase libido through boosts of testosterone. If you don’t use it, you lose it (Exton et al., 1999).
  • Sleep better. Oxytocin and vasopressin are both released during orgasm and associated with melatonin for sleep – explaining why we often fall into a deep slumber after sex (Kruger & Hughes, 2011).
  • Reduces cardiovascular risk later in life for women (Liu et al., 2016)
  • Boosts the immune system by increasing the number of natural killer cells in your blood (Haake et al., 2004).

How Meditation Helps Enhance Your Orgasms

So, you either want to enhance your orgasms or you want to start having them more frequently? Meditation can help you reach your orgasm goals. Practicing meditation teaches you about controlling your breath and calming your mind. Meditation helps us to take a moment to de-stress, clear our focus away from our never-ending daily to-do list and focus on how our bodies feel in the moment. We can then use this moment of peace and focus on relaxing even further and sinking into ecstasy.

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How To Use Meditation for Better Orgasms

  • Set the scene and get comfortable lying down. Have your favorite lubricants or toys on hand. Dim the lights, put on some sexy lingerie, start with a massage, maybe light some scented candles. P.S. If you haven’t tried coconut oil try it… it’s the best.
  • Next, start your meditation practice as usual by focusing on your breath and slowly breathe in and out deeply into your stomach. Use a count of seven. Breathe in for a count of seven and out for a count of seven.
  • While you are breathing starting at your toes scan your body and observe how you feel. Are there any areas that are in pain? Where do you feel most relaxed?
  • As per every meditation when you notice your mind starting to wander, gently push the thought aside and move back to your breath. Remember to be kind to yourself. This process is all about self-love.
  • Once your mind is relaxed, and you are comfortable, let the sexual exploration begin. Every time you get distracted go back to focusing on pleasure and breathing deeply.
  • Enjoy better orgasms.

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